Hello lady,

Let me introduce myself, my screen name is ANGRYWIFE. I guess it´s self-explanatory.

I really understand you as I hate my own husband´s actions, as he is a lazy ass, and idiot and a moron.

After reading about your marriage and other women´s marriages, including mine, I wonder why in the world are we still married to these husbands?

What would it take for you to leave yours? Have you mustered the courage to send him to hell? Have you thought of the financial implications, in case that you have debt and property together?

At his point and after looking at my own financial and emotional mistakes, now I know I SHOULD HAVE PLANNED things better and way ahead of time, instead of WASTING time waiting this long for things to improve.

Right now what I am doing is to EDUCATE myself about the financial consequences and implications of a divorce, as I have no other concerns because I don´t have children with him, my children are already 20 years old......... AND WE DON´T HAVE ANY PROPERTY. All we have is some joint debt for some cars........no house......no money....just our respective paychecks. ......

Please read books on women and how to defend themselves from divorce, and more importantly, start building your nest before you finally send him to hell.

I am not at all a feminist, I don´t hate men or anything, but I do believe that many a women would be better off without their stupid, irresponsible, insensitive husbands.

I am afraid of loneliness. However, for example, it hurts more to have him around not caring than it would be to be all by myself. Perhaps lonely but at least FREE and serene..

Good luck to you!
Angrywife

your husband did not take you from your family. You had a choice and you turned your back to them. Every one in this world has a choice you can choose to keep or to let go so dont blame your husband for you choice you made it your self Sorry but its true

Yes you always have a choice, but to say that it was her choice to turn her back on her family is absurde.  When you have someone who is very good at manipulating you, making you feel like carap when you do voice your opinions, who can twist you feelings into what he wants.....it is hard to see that you had a choice.  I think there are so many people out there with forked tongues, who take advantage of good loving people.  Sure lets just blame the victim here.

it's amazing how people can blame the victim!  Unless you have experienced the situation, you don't know what it's like.  I would never wish it on anyone

I can relate all the way my husband has a schitzophrenic son who has attacked me 4 times my husband has attacked me 2 times and it is a constant fight that if I would just go along then none of this would happen I have been blamed for the abuse constantly I wish they could fell what I have felt. I hate them both

I can relate all the way my husband has a schitzophrenic son who has attacked me 4 times my husband has attacked me 2 times and it is a constant fight that if I would just go along then none of this would happen I have been blamed for the abuse constantly I wish they could fell what I have felt. I hate them both

I hate my husband because he won't have sex with me. He claims he has blood in his urine, and has had a prostate infection in the past, but he won't go to the doctor. I think he is gay and just skating. He has shown no interest in sex for 9 months, and even then he did it like I was forcing him and said, "There now, are you happy?" Nice of him. He is an idiot, a bastard and a loser living off me. I wish he were dead, because he has ruined my life. It stops now, I am leaving.

I remember my husband taking my son on trips. and not allowing my daughters and me to go along.  I forgot about that until tonight.  My husband just likes to lie on the couch and watch sports.  He doesn't want to go out, ever.

Blood in the urine or a past prostrate infection would not cause a man not to have sex. Infact-prostate infections can be caused by lack of sex. Now if he had herpes, gono, syphillisthose would be reasons he refused to have sex. Check it out.

another cause could be the butt-ugly fatass hairy armed wife.

He's probably gay, and too selfish and afraid to admit it. That's how men are.. selfish and cowardly. Don't you dare blame her.

wow what a feminist bitch, go on and suck my dick and head towards the kitchet, that's where you belong.

if you had a decent sized dick, i might do that...

this is for people who hate their husbands suck ur own!

I don't know about the gay thing, but the coward and selfish part is right on.

Why all of sudden think that the husband is gay. He's had sex with her before right? Maybe, it's her, maybe he just doesn't love her anymore, maybe, just the thought of having sex with her discusses him, he's not attracted to her anymore, maybe there is someone else on the side(female). All of these could be possibilities, and the wife should talk to him about it. Now when you find emails and goggles  form/to bi or gay site then you have something to worry about. When ever I do a search and start to type in letters some of what he has already gone on is there, and let me tell you how disgusting it is that I don't want to have sex with him.

LMAO, you fat ugly cunt. Like that other dude said, get the fuck back in the kitch, bitch.

hello boyo, and ill bet  u r equally as attractive. fat asshole, pull that beer belly gut in

Will do,... just as soon, as you wax your upper lip, take a weed whacker to that monstrous jungle down there, loose about 100 lbs, start sucking cock again.. deal?

Why would a man even come on this site?  What do you care if women want to vent about their relationships?  Don't you have something better to do that harass these women?  Frickin' wierdo.

Hmmm.... You mean someone who looks like a relative of yours... like your MOTHER perhaps? Seems like you know what a fat ass'ed hairy woman looks like from having to suckle her withered up teets. Or perhaps you're married to a fat ass'ed hairy woman who left you for a man with a bigger penis. Which is it?

wow, you're one bitter small dicked pussy

YOU CAN HAVE MY HUSBAND , ALL HE WANTS TO DO IS SCREW, I HATE IT , HE MAKES ME SICK ! YUCK.......

omg, mine too!! I WISH mine didn't want to have sex with me. I feel like a prostitute because that is the only way he will treat me "good" at least for a week. then it starts over again. The thought of having sex with him disgusts me because he treats me like shit otherwise.

Same here, hes only decent in the 10 minutes before he wants sex, the rest of the time hes a complete a-hole!!!! why dosent he understand i dont want to have sex because hes a horrible, abusive and bitter man.

Sounds exactly like my husband. He put his arm round me the other day and I thought, "Wow!" because he never shows me affection any more but all he wanted was sex. He's also bad-tempered, moody, will never take responsibility for his actions, always blames me for everything and when he gets angry he shouts and swears like a madman. He tells me the house isn't mine because he bought it. When our daughter was born not only did he never help, if she cried in the night (which was almost never) he used to get up only to start shouting at me!!! He seems to have no faith in me at all and is always criticising me amd controlling me. But, strangely, he doesn't seem very jealous even though he's Sicilian.He let me go on my own on holiday to a place where he knows I have a long-standing ex. On the plus side , he doesn't drink and seems responsible with money and, as far as I know, has not been unfaithful but he's so domineering. Sometimes he can be physically violent aswell. Maybe two or three times a year. But it's the shouting I really hate.The last time we had a really big row he called my parents in England and shouted abuse at them down the phone!!! Plus I think the whole neighbourhood has heard us by now. I'm sometimes nervous about going out with him,too, as I'm afraid he'll get angry and show me up. I'm not happy.

That's exactly the way mine is. If he doesn't get sex he treats me like crap (and the kids too). I have to have sex with him just to get treated like a person. It makes me hate sex. I have to force myself through the ordeal.

Oh, here we go, women on the rg complaining about men and yet to this day the saying nice guys finish last rings true. Fuck off you petty pusilanimous cunt whores. I used to be a really nice guy until I realized that all women really care about is complaining about all the assholes they meet. Now, I'm an asshole and it's all your fault.

you're a prick and you couldn't possibly understand. Go jerk yourself off and stay away from a board you apparently have nothing to do with you piece of shit. Women have every right to have what they desire just as much as a man does. Men think sex is owed...women need romance and to feel self-worth and loved. With a man constantly putting you down and demeaning every little fucking thing you do could you get off? Probably...because you're a man. A woman can't...and then what reason does she have to want to upkeep herself and have sex? If everything you ever do is wrong and not good enough why continue to try?

Hey you keep yourself up for yourself and yourself alone.  Your thinking is good except for that.  You never know about tomorrow and neither do they and looking good for someone or something else might be the greatest revenge there ever was.  Show him what a fool he was to treat you badly.  As for the post before me you were right about your description of him.  Simpler put - he has NO class.

Here, here, been there girl...

maybe she wouldn't have anything to complain about if you were a real man and didn't act like a little boy

Withholding sex is very common with narcissists.  It's a form of control.

Look up Cerebral Narcissist and Somatic Narcissist.  Even a somatic narcissist  can withhold sex from his partner but that doesn't mean he isn't getting it from 16 other sources on the side.  Also they can switch between cerebral and somatic at different phases in life.

Cerebral = no desire

Somatic = practically insatiable

So a woman withholding sex would be a narcissit too? Or is it perfectly ok for her to withold it because "she has a headache." In other words, does it work both ways?

I have a sneaking suspicion you are one of those fat feminists who cant get a man so they try to talk normal women into thinking men are evil. Men cant withold sex, but its perfectly ok for a woman to, huh?

Get the fuck in the kitchen, bitch and make yourself useful.

$1. menu thats what i would feed u dumb ass! men like you suck . u the one with a fat ass wife thats y ur on here trying to find a date!

Speak for yourself you meatloaf-inhaling nonspelling piece of shit.

Actually, men can and do withhold sex too.  And women usually don't withhold sex with bad intentions of trying to be controlling, they just don't desire sex because their needs aren't being met.

Ha, ha, what's all the big bad talk about getting into the kitchen. Ow that weally huuts chawlie! also the same fowl verbage over and over, you've definately been burned by a woman and have heard all these complaints before, now be a real man, and get off a woman's site, go find one for burned men you fagboy, hahaha, and go to the kitchen! Yeah, see it means nothing. stupid. By the way, baby, you wish you knew who you were talking to, You big boner

Do any of you men have anything more intelligent to say then "Get back in the kitchen??" Maybe THAT's why women hate you all...so damn repetetive!

I am in the same boat......I have been with my husband for 18 years and we have 12 chldren...I am devestated!!!!!  I live my life cooking, cleaning, earning a living and alls I get from a lazy money grabbing parasite is GRIEF!!!!!  My Grandmother past away recently and the situation has gotten worse becase he thinks he is entitled to squander my inheritance....one which I would like to spend on my children.  I don't seem to have a choice in this unless I want a full on violent degrading argument!!!!!

Stupid bitch!  One problem is you should've stopped having children about 10 kids ago!!  Sew it up!

You are a closed minded, self rightous ass

with everyone else, your a stupid asshole.

End of story.

maybe next time going in and swinging your dick around maybe try to do some research? like the behavior of narcissists? or abusive relationships?

For example moron its not just men that can be selfish hateful bastards.
Not at all. Females are just as capable of being a selfish prick as males are.

And Narcissists feed off people pity and support and are blood sucking pieces of crap that screw you over in a heartbeat for some menial gain.

They are parasites that scurry behind pity and blame as a cockroach would hide under a table.
they are worthless pieces of flesh that don't even deserve your hand to back them up.

They are the reason we can never be united or safe, the idea that you hold for one second that people have a "choice" to leave these bags of shit is absolutely amazing.

yes they do have a choice but usually the reaction  when a blood sucking leech starts eating you to not get it off and leave it would be stupider then your comment.

Try to be not such a ignorant dickhead.
and if you are don't speak to any narcissist or rape victims.

but stupider is not a word, stupid! or maybe you're more stupid. lol

I hate my husband sometimes it is scary. I tell myself that I would be better without him but i am scared of having the financial responsiblities of our daughter to myself. i know that he would not pay any child support. he has a 21 year old daughter that he didn't pay child support until the government took it from him. he threathens to quit his job so he would not be able to pay for child support. Whenever we have a weekend to work on our marriage he says something that either pisses me off or hurts my feelings. So the whold weekend is messed up. He hates it when i spend any of my free time with my mother (they do not get alone) i am in a position at work that i am about to be promoted, but in the mean time i have to work extra hours to be considered. i need him to take care of our daughter until i get this promotion. I guess i have to wait until i get this pomotion to get rid of the ass.

LEAVE HIM

you should be ashamed of yourself!!!!!  I am a parent and a child of a mom like like you.  i would never forsake my kid for a man!!!!!!!!

I agree.  But, I partly blame myself because I don't understand why I keep making these stupid mistakes...i.e...men....

Now, this one has power and money.  And is verbally abuse trying to start turning physically abusive (such as shoving and pushing).  So, the only thing I can do is grab myself from the bootstraps and prepare for battle.

Only been married since Oct. of this year!  Awful.....I was so hoping it work out.....it is so sad...I really believe in marriage and the commitment.

He is a worker...just when we dated things were great...he was sweet, charming, known him since 7th grade.  I knew he drank some beer and so did I.  And in Nov. around Thanksgiving I got up in the morning because his behavior go worse and he was drinking at 7:00 am.  Ultimately I have married and alcoholic and  after tied the knot, he became more controlling as far as money, my thoughts, job, people, everything.

I am really beginning to resent him!

 

Girl, you better get out while you can. Don't waste your life on a bum. The shoving will turn more violate..the drinking will get worse as the years go by. Unfortunately, most people put up their best front when dating and then after the marriage-there is no need for pretense anymore and you will see the true person come out.

Very Well put. I am trying to do this now (Save Money ) I made 12,000 and he found out about it. Next thing I knew we needed this and that. He is abusive in more ways than I can count.  Iknow it  is so bad to stay in this for my one child who is still young. My others agree I would be better to leave then to put her in this as they lived it. It is sad to say. This man was once my very best friend. After we got married he turned into this complete MONSTER. I know after reading many books on the subject I am not at fault. I am  talking to a priest to help give me the peace I need.   Not all men (real men)   are like these guys truely they  are not!!  It would seem to be that way after reading all the misgivings.You confirmed to me I am on doing the right thing for the later outcome. Anyway, just wanted to say great advice and I wish you well.

$12,000.
WOW!
Amazing what a whole year working at the coffee shop can do if you sock it away.
I hope you were nice and bought hubby a home theater system or something.

Boring!

Hi I know exactly where you are coming from.  It can be very difficulty to stay and weigh-up whether to go and cut your loses.  Until people have been in a similar situation - who are they to pass judegment?  I too worry about being lonely - but you will always have friends to support you - but think of this! - when you put things away they will still be there when needed - when you run out of coffee - you will know and remember to pick some up.  If you are that lonely - the same as me, then it is time to take stock - mine won'e even talk to me about a split - he thinks that everything is fine, and we didn't marry at a young age to account for his perceptions.  We were both people of the world.  I am all for spliting the capital in our house and moving seperately.  He behaves like 20 years my senior - he won't take me out - he perfers to stay in and watch the telly.  In fact, he has taken me out twice in the last 18 months.  I love being with someone secure, but without some excitement, I don't want to be in the same situation when I am 60! 

I hate my husband sooooooo much I'm willing to die to get the fuck out!

So what are you waiting for?   Try "Final Exit" (at all branches of the Milwaukee Library)

Angrywife, I am stuck in my marriage to my cheater emotionally closed down narcissist p.o.s. husband right because of the economy being what it is and two teens still living at home and one in college.  I figure I have 3 years before I can get out because then I won't care if I have no money as they'll be out of high school.  I will get the boys a modest apartment somewhere near to the colleges, move not too far from them but not too close to be in their faces all the time, and leave burning tire marks in the garage as I back out of it.  I'm doing the same thing you are.  Educating myself, saving money, and planning where to live and how I'm going to afford to live.  You are so correct. That's the way to go.  Get ready so when you leave you're set.  It helps to know you have a plan.

 

I know what you mean. I highly dislike my husband and his personality. Hate is a strong word. My mom once said that there is a fine line between hate and love. I did not know what she meant until recently. I want out...but I want a home atmosphere for my grandkids. He is a good provider, but says no to me for everything I ask. We are opposites. I guess it is a marriage of convienience after all these years 30 going on 40. It could always be worse. I think when you get to a certain point, you have to way out your options. At least I have freedoms. Good luck, but don't take any flack. Stand your ground. chin up. You are not alone!!

I understand you because I hate my husband too. He is jealous of my daughter. And he is very lazy he wants to take have of what I bought for my home he cant keep a job and he wants to argue drink beer and fuck and eat pussy and all night every night.

I am replying to the lady that says all her husband wants to do is argue, drink beer & eat pussy. I am in the same boat. What I love about it is men are so narcissistic that they feel they can yell at you & make you feel like shit but expect you to be loving toward them & give them the best sex. Where my husband works, he had 2 co-workers shot & killed & if that happened to my husband I would not do what the 1 wife did to her slained husband - hold his hand while he was in the coffin. If that happened to my husband, I'd hire the 76 trumbone band & have a big banner outside my place saying "big party here".

OOH!   I had a bitch of a husband once, ooh, no names mentioned!  Same as yours sweetie!  OOh, he was a filthy old faggot!  Ohh, yes he also wanted to argue and yell and drink beer and wanted to eat ...oooh...well...not pussy.....but ooh you know what I mean!  OOh!  Couldn't wait to get rid of him eventually. I had a huuuuge feather party to oooh, celebrate his departure! He had a big whiny yelling mouth, a limp wrist, ooh, a limp dick and a very limp brain. OOH!

Alfie Adonis
VOTE KING SOUL!

Werent you married to Headon or Untitled at one stage?

I just found out that my husband has been having mulitiple affairs. He did this before we got married. As if I should be surprised he did it again.  At this point I have nothing nice to say to him or about him. I told him this morning I hated him. I stopped having sex with him when he got back from Bahrain 2 years ago because he was not a good boy there. It's a no wonder he went looking. I'm so afraid he will bring home an STD plus I'm completely turned off by his actions. I make the money, clean the house and do everything else. He gets to act like a teen age boy. I'm so pissed but yet I can seem to let him go. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?

He keeps telling me he will change but how long does that take?

Any help or advise would be helpful.

Jennifer

I feel your pain. How long have you been married? Can you leave? I can't tell you what to do because I'm in the same boat. My husband is a complete shit head. A money draining cheater. I would leave but than he would get away debt free.

Good luck. Let me know if you need a friend to talk to.

 

Take care,

HELLO ANONYMOUS

Anonymous on Friday, May 08 2009 @ 10:43 PM UTC

Sorry to hear you are on the same boat.   Yes, I can leave now...well, sort of.....once I get out of this financial mess, which is almost done.  What about you?  What is your situation?  Do you have a job?  Young children?  Debt?   Do you still love your husband?

I am more and more disappointed with mine, it's been almost 10 years and he still doesn't get it!   He never will *sigh*.  Oh, well, look at Michael Jackson, he died young and rich and famous, so let's just relax and try to enjoy whatever we can!

LOL

 

excuse me, honey, but being a feminist has absolutely NOTHING to do with "hating men", really!  being a feminist is simply having the belief that half of the human race is actually *gasp* equal in importance and deserving of all things good and tasty as the other half of the human race.  being a feminist is allowing yourself to be a human being first and THEN a gender to be treated with respect and dignity. 

Ooooooh, you are so right! Ooooh! Thank you for writing that! OOOh!

~Alfie.Adonis. (gorgeous gay guy)

OOoooOOOOOooooooOOOOoooooooH! Dirty imposter!!!!

I can so feel your pain.  I sometimes get so angry with my husband.  I hate him! 

If we are in the company of anyone else, he argues with me about the most minute detail.  He is basically calling me a liar in front of other people.  I can know exactly what happened and he still argues. He has even started to speak to me a very ugly tone in front of his and my parents.  I am so embarrassed by this.

There are times he is so selfish.  We all went to a fast food resturant for a quick stop, I stayed in the car with another wife and he came back with nothing for me.  I guess I was the only one who wasn't hungru or thristy after a 5 hour drive.  He got angry with me because I was not happy with him.  He blames his action on me!   ARGH!  Stuff like this makes me want to file divorce papers. 

I can't stand my brother and sister-in law and I am made to spend personal time with them!  Above and beyond being business partners.  He knows how I feel and how she treats me but he doesn't give a shit!   As long as he gets to do what he wants.  He has NEVER stood up to his family for me any way.  "I am suppossed to be the bigger person" that is the statement I get when confronted about the situation.  I am very hurt by this and He says its time to move on.

What do you do?? 

It sounds like we are married to the same person and let me tell you after 12 years, nothing has changed.  If he won't stand up for you now, he never will!!  I blame my husband's mother for raising him to believe that he is the center of the universe and that she is a saint.  I am stuck with him for now because we have 3 small children together, but I worry that our relationship is a horrible example to them.  My 5 year old son told me the other day that he never wants to get married and have kids because he doesn't want to have to work all the time and do chores all the time like I do.  My husband was standing right there and didn't even seem to understand what he was saying.  I hate being married to someone who is so wrapped up in their own little world that they can't see anyone else.

Dear Angrywife,

I feel the exact same way about my lazy bum for a husband. While searching books about divorce for women after 40, i was disappointed to read that the majority of the topics dealt with men who leave women, you know, rejection issues. What about women who are fed up and leave thier good for nothing husbands. It's not that common a topic. My issue is much like yours, I hate that I am so full of anger and rage for giving up so many years of my life to a lazy, using, piece of crap of a husband. Now, my concern is dealing with anger towards myself for not divorcing him sooner. You know, it's not easy to start all over again, financially, emotionally, etc... all by yourself.

I resent that so many educated women have thier lives in order and mine is just a mess. Don't be offended if your not educated, it only makes me feel even more foolish that I don't have my shit together. I am too old for the drama, and I don't have the luxury too grieve as I have to go to work every day and pay the bills. I just pray that the pain of the first year won't completely consume me. One more thing, I deserve to be in a good relationship, and so do you. Don't give up. There are good men out there and we deserve to be in a healthy relationship.

Angrywife:

Thanks for the information.  I've been married to this incredibly selfish self-centered SOB for 5 years now -- we have been together 22 years and have 2 daughters together -- one out of the house and the other almost out of the house.  I want out sooooo bad.  I would rather be free thatn stuck in this miserable, loveless marriage another second, but as the main source of income (I have 3 jobs now -- down from 4 because he wants to spend and have his own life...), I'm stuck I have no where to go; my mom and dad are both dead and no friends or family to speak of.  I invested my time and life on my husband and kids.  I'm tired and sad most of the time.  I thought I was alone in my feelings. I see now, I am not.

I feel you pain Angrywife. I wasted eight years to an angry, abusive, bitter man (with a teeny manhood - probably the reason for part of his behavior).  I had two small children. After I got out of the hospital (from him), I got an order of protection, sold all his shit, took his kids, and left. He was always in control of the money (even mine) so bills were in his name. He thought he could control everything that way. When I split, he was left with ALL the bills and debt. I took the kids completely away (stripped his rights) and he's now in prison for molesting two 4 and 5 year old  little girls (relations of his). That was probably part of his nastiness. He didn't want to be married to a woman, he wanted to be a child rapist. I'm now remarried and I love my new hubby. He's awesome. We're 50/50 and he would die for me. He makes me very happy. I can't wait to go home after working to be with him.

Best advice : GET out while you can. DON'T waste away in a pathetic excuse for a marraige. And NEVER put up with abuse in any form. You're worth more than what spues out of an abuser's mouth or from his hands. Any man that would degrade his spouse (or daughter or mother) or any radom female he doesn't know, isn't even worth your time or acknowledgement.

Join meetup.com and you won't be lonely long...it is awesome and you will find men and women with similar interests...It has saved my life and I have meant some amazing people that I know will be lifelong friends...just check it out...what have you got to lose? Good luck :)

Oh Let me tell you.....I have three kids with mine. Ages  3, 2 and 1.  Word cannot even describe how much I hate him.  I have these thoughts that he would get into a car accident and never come back, but of course that would be too easy.  He is a narcissitic piece of shit.  I am scared to share 50 percent custody with him. I have a good job and can support myself without one penny from him. I am scared of what he will do to me if I leave him. He is an angry person, and feels that he has to make everyone pay that does anything to him.  I am afraid I will end up 6 feet under and my kids will be stuck with that asshole that is going to ruin their lives. 

Are you me? This sounds like my life, except my kids are a bit older. Im waiting for them to grow a bit more to leave him. I plan it every day, financialy I'll be up the creek, but emotionaly better off. he treats our son like crap!